Sexuality

This week’s readings have really challenged my prior understanding of gender and sexuality. Before, reading “Reconsidering Asexuality and its Radical Potential” I really honestly had no idea how it could be expressed. I mean I had heard the term “asexual” before but, I didn’t always understand it s meaning. According to the reading asexual is “as a lack of sexual attraction combined with one’s identification as asexual”. In my mind I wasn’t aware that there was individual’s in society that actually did not gain sexual attraction from another individual. But, of course this was because I didn’t have the proper knowledge to fully understand the term. In terms of prior reading that we’ve had I felt that Serrano’s “Bisexuality and Binaries” did the complete opposite as oppose to the article about asexuality. Serano’s article more so challenged it reader to understand is was possible to be sexually attracted to both sexes of men and women and to understand that for, example if a woman was to have sex with both a man and a woman she could still be sexually aroused yet feel different emotions while dealing with both sexes. So labeling yourself as bisexual could solely express how you could grasp different emotions and sexual experiences no matter what sex you dealt with. I thought this interesting and could prove a point to society that some individuals don’t have a choice in being bisexual. It just so happens that are attracted to both sexes and that just is what it is. Plan and simple.

2 thoughts on “Sexuality”

  1. I can completely relate to this post. The first time I heard the term “asexual” I was in eighth grade. It was more of a vague enigma that did not have real meaning or substance to it. Growing up, I never really heard people talk about asexuality. It was not until my freshman year at Maryland, when I was to hear the term “asexual” again when one of the girls on my floor said she was an asexual. I never really understood the concept of asexuality until recently in class. It is still a little confusing, grasping the idea of someone wanting an intimate relationship with another person, but not wanting to pursue any sexual interaction past perhaps a kiss. As far as bisexuality goes, Serrano’s work definitely shed light on some issues. Being emotionally and sexually attracted to both sexes is completely possible and healthy. Some people think that you have to be more attracted to one sex, or “like” one sex more than the other. But clearly this is not the case.

  2. I also completely agree. Before this reading, i’ve heard the term asexual before but never knew what it meant and what people did as “asexuals” but I was always curious. When i asked for a definition in the past, people would tell me its defined as “not liking anybody.” When hearing this, I thought it was a joke honestly because I didn’t believe that an individual could literally not be attracted to anyone. After reading this and getting a better understanding, I realized that it’s completely possible and a lifestyle that a lot of people choose to live. Like Alyssa stated in her comment, it’ was a concept that was somewhat blurry to me; not because it wasn’t defined precisely, but because it was hard to wrap my head around the fact that people can actually be in a relationship for the intimacy and nothing more or less. It was hard to comprehend, for me, because I’ve never been exposed to someone that lives their life that way. Don’t get me wrong, i completely accept it and anyone who decides to be asexual but because it’s not something that I see everyday or what’s “normal” in society to some people, it’s not something that i chose to gain knowledge on prior to this course.

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